Do you *have* to relocate? Can the local social services not provide support so you don't have to do that? That's a shame, I found our borough to be really helpful when I was doing caring stuff.

I hope you get the chance to have a more tolerant relationship with your dad. My dad had a difficult time with his own father all his life (my grandfather was a pretty harsh guy all round), but I do think they made *some* progress after my grandmother died. Best of luck.