Unfortunately he already is in his old age (81). Since my mother died in January he seems to have gone into a sharp decline (mainly, I think, serious depression rather than dementia, but at that age they can present similarly).
I am going to have to relocate and look after him ASAP, I fear.
When I came out as bi at 17 my mother said she'd rather I'd told her I was dying of AIDS and my father grabbed me by the hair, threw me to the ground, and kicked me. So I don't have very high expectations on the tolerance front.
Do you *have* to relocate? Can the local social services not provide support so you don't have to do that? That's a shame, I found our borough to be really helpful when I was doing caring stuff.
I hope you get the chance to have a more tolerant relationship with your dad. My dad had a difficult time with his own father all his life (my grandfather was a pretty harsh guy all round), but I do think they made *some* progress after my grandmother died. Best of luck.
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Date: 2009-07-09 10:00 am (UTC)I am going to have to relocate and look after him ASAP, I fear.
When I came out as bi at 17 my mother said she'd rather I'd told her I was dying of AIDS and my father grabbed me by the hair, threw me to the ground, and kicked me. So I don't have very high expectations on the tolerance front.
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Date: 2009-07-09 10:13 am (UTC)I hope you get the chance to have a more tolerant relationship with your dad. My dad had a difficult time with his own father all his life (my grandfather was a pretty harsh guy all round), but I do think they made *some* progress after my grandmother died. Best of luck.